We Choose

Prodigal: Just because someone carries it well doesn’t mean it isn’t heavy.

Me: So true.

Author Unknown

We choose how we shall live;

courageously or in cowardice,

honorable or dishonorably,

with purpose or in drift.

We decide what is important

and what is trivial in life.

We decide that what makes us significant

is either what we do or refuse to do…..

WE DECIDE

WE CHOOSE

And as we decide and as we choose,

so our lives are formed……

For the great day of his wrath is come; and who shall be able to stand? Revelation 6:17 (KJV)

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org

Four Essential Elements

Prodigal: It’s right as rain.

Me: Amen!

This is from How to Have That Difficult Conversation by Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend

Any good disciplining conversation with your child contains four essentials elements: love, truth, freedom, and reality. Love allows the child to feel enough grace to tolerate the truth without feeling hated and bad. Truth provides the rules and requirements for his desired behavior so that he is aware of your expectations, what to do and what to not do. Freedom involves letting the child make a choice to respond to your requests (except in areas of safety, danger, and situations he is not ready for) so that he leans to “own” his decisions. Reality is the consequence or result of what happens to the child if he uses his freedom to defy or ignore your rules.

Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them. Romans 1:19 (KJV)

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org

Religious Books

 

Prodigal:  I can’t decide which book to read.

Me:  Yes, that often is a problem for me.  There are so many to choose from.

Prodigal:  I have a little while to figure it out.

 

This comes from Philip Yancey

 

A shelf of all the religious books on this subject would cleanly divide into two groups.  The older ones, by Bunyan, Donne, Luther, Calvin, Augustine, and others, are almost embarrassing in their readiness to accept pain and suffering as among God’s useful agents.  A sense of loyalty and faith in God’s wisdom undergirds each one.  God knows what He is doing in this world, and these authors do not question His actions.  They merely try to “justify” the ways of God to man.

More modern books on pain, beginning with some of the agnostic philosophers of nineteenth century and continuing through to many Christians today, contrast sharply.  These authors assume that the amount of evil and suffering in this world cannot be matched with the traditional view of good and loving God.  Therefore, many of them adjust their conception of God, either redefining His love or questioning His power to control evil.  If you read these two categories of books side by side, the difference is quite striking.  It is as if we in modern times think we have a corner on the suffering market.  Do we forget that Luther and Calvin and the others lived in a world without ether and penicillin, and that Bunyan and Donne wrote their greatest works in a dungeon.

 

Why do we think we are guaranteed a life with no pain?  When I start thinking that then I find myself bitter with God.  I find myself questioning more than accepting.  My faith is less and I take control.  In reality, sometimes we have pain and we have no answers but God is still got us and that is more important than if we have pain or not.

 

Let the word of Christ dwell in richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.

Colossians  3:16

 

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org

Lord,

Prodigal: Sometimes we need to pray.

Me: You’re speaking the truth!

This is from the book Splashes of Joy in the Cesspools of Life by Barbara Johnson

Lord, whenever I hear or read rumors, gossip, or just plain lies, help me fix my thoughts on what is true, good, and right. Help me tune out what is negative and suggestive and tune in what is pure and lovely.

When I get irritated with others and start finding fault, help me dwell on the fine things in them. Help me forget about their faults and remember their strengths.

And when I start feeling sorry for myself, help me remember all the reasons why I should praise You. Remind me of all the blessings You bring into my life to make me happy.

And they that were sent went their way, and found even as he had said unto them. Luke 19:32 (KJV)

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org

Your Cleanness

Prodigal: Time to clean!

Me: Yes, it is

This is from Joy in Christ’s Presence by Charles Spurgeon

Your cleanness is not measured by any scale or ruler; it is not a variable or vanishing quantity. Instead, it is present, constant, and perfect. You are clean through the Word, through the application of “the blood of sprinkling” (Heb 12:24) to your conscience, and through the imputation of the righteousness of the Lord Jesus Christ.

Lift up your head, therefore, and sing with a joyful heart, because your transgression has been pardoned, your sin has been covered, and Jehovah sees no iniquity in you. Do not let another moment pass until by faith in Jesus you have grasped this privilege. Do not be content to merely believe that this priceless gift may be had, but lay hold of it for yourself. You will find that the song praising Christ’s substitutionary death for you is an excellent song, if you are able to sing it.

Preserve me, O God: for in thee do I put my trust. Psalm 16:1 (KJV)

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org

Multitasking and Work

Prodigal: I ain’t got a dadblame thing to do.

Me: Well, enjoy the peace.

This is from the book Growing Up Social: Raising Relational Kids In A Screen-Driven World by Gary Chapman and Arlene Pellicane

Multitasking reduces the quality of your work. In one experiment, students were asked to sit in a lab and complete a standard cognitive skill test. One group of subjects was not interrupted while taking the test. The other group was told they may be contacted with further instructions at any moment via text. They were interrupted twice during the exam. The interrupted group scored 20 percent less than the other group. That difference is enough to bring a B-minus student down to a failing student. In another study, researchers found that workers distracted by email and phone calls suffered a fall in IQ more than twice of that found in marijuana smokers.

If your child is multitasking while doing homework or other activities requiring focus, the quality of her work will suffer. When Suzy does her homework while watching television, she is prone to make errors she would catch if she weren’t distracted.

A false witness shall perish: but the man that heareth speaketh constantly. Proverbs 21:28 (KJV)

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org

It’s Nature

Prodigal: Let’s get to work!

Me: Yes!

This is from A Spiritual Clinic by J. Oswald Sanders

The nature of true spiritual leadership is indicated in a sentence from the pen of the late Dr. S.M. Zwemer: “There was never a world in greater need of men and women who know the way, and can keep ahead and draw others to follow,” If we are to become leaders it will be because we can show the way to others, the way which we have successfully trodden ourselves. We can lead others only so far as we ourselves have gone, and we are leaders only to the extent that we inspire others to follow us. Because eh himself has qualified, a leader can secure the cooperation of others in achieving some work for God.

If thou put the brethren in remembrance of these things, thou shalt be a good minister of Jesus Christ, nourished up in the words of faith and of good doctrine, whereunto thou hast attained. 1 Timothy 4:6 (KJV)

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org

The Spirit of God

Prodigal: A man is also known by the company he avoids.

Me: Something to ponder.

This is from the book The Soul Winner by C.H. Spurgeon

If we all preach with the “Holy Spirit sent down from heaven” ( 1 Peter 1:12), the results will astound us. After all, there is no end to the power of the tongue! Look at the power of a bad tongue–what great harm it can do! Will not God put more power into a good tongue, if we will but use it right? Look at the power of fire: a single spark might set a city ablaze. Similarly, the Spirit of God being with us, we do not need to calculate how much or what we can do. There is no calculating the potentialities of a flame, and no end to the possibilities of divine truth spoken with the enthusiasm that is born of the Spirit of God.

Now the Lord is that Spirit: and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is liberty. 2 Corinthians 3:17 (KJV)

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org

As A Result

Prodigal: Strawberry looks delicious!

Me: Yes, the results are good so far.

This is from T.C. Upham

As a result of this strong faith, the inner life of Catherine of Genoa was characterized, in a remarkable degree, by what may be termed rest, or quietude; which is only another form of expression for true interior peace. It was not, however, the quietude of a lazy inaction, but the quietude of an inward acquiescence; not a quietude which feels nothing and does nothing, but that higher and divine quietude which exists by feeling and acting in the time and degree of God’s appointment and God’s will. It was a principle in her conduct, to give herself to God in the discharge of duty; and to leave all results without solicitude in His hands.

But if I tarry long, that thou mayest know how thou oughtest to behave thyself in the house of God, which is the church of the living God, the pillar and ground of the truth. 1 Timothy 3:15 (KJV)

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org

Spirit of Love

Prodigal: What a blessing you have been.

Me: Amen, with the Lord as my guide.

This is from J.H. Thom

The Spirit of Love must work the works, and speak the tones, of Love. It cannot exist and give no sign, or a false sign. It cannot be a spirit of Love, and mantle into irritable and selfish impatience. It cannot be a spirit of Love, and at the same time make self the prominent object. It cannot rejoice to lend itself to the happiness of others, and at the same time be seeking its own. It cannot be generous, and envious. It cannot be sympathizing, and unseemly; self-forgetful, and vain-glorious. It cannot delight in the rectitude and purity of other hearts, as the spiritual elements of their peace, and yet unnecessarily suspect them.

Neither be ye called masters: for one is your Master, even Christ. Matthew 23:10 (KJV)

Jennifer Van Allen

www.theprodigalpig.com

www.faithincounseling.org